I just picked up my phone to respond to a message from a friend & I found myself having a quick scroll through Facebook (as you do.)
I came across an article that made me want to throw my phone across the room! Instead I started writing on something that has stirred within me for quite some time, so here it is.
Stop complaining, stop comparing, stop being negative, stop pulling others down, stop wishing for more stuff or less or different and STOP PUBLICLY SPEAKING NEGATIVELY ABOUT YOUR SPOUSE & CHILDREN!
If there is one thing that gets me worked up, it is people complaining about their spouse + or + children on social media. So often I will read negative comments somebody has written Samuel will simply reply “Just unfriend them, you don't need people like that in your life!”
I get it, life can be tough, having kids is a big change + there are always challenges with change. No matter what the change is. But you don’t have to plaster your frustrations at your kids on Facebook. Don't forget it is a public forum, one that your kids will be able to look back on in years to come.
Your words hold power, choose them wisely. They have the power to build up + bring life and they also have the power to shut down + wound deeply.
If it has been “one of those days” or you are struggling in a season, pick up your phone + CALL a friend, your mum, your sister, your bestie, a counselor, someone who you trust to give you a little perspective + a calming response. But, please stop putting it on Facebook. Its damn ugly! You are doing damage to your relationships, most of all your relationships with those you dearly love.
We each have the ability to choose to live different.
Stereotypes exist because we choose to believe them. What if, just what if we chose to break them instead?
I have often said to people “if you throw a stereotype at me, watch me try my best to break it! (I have never been one to colour inside the lines or stay within the boundaries anyway …)
Did you know you can actually be transformed …[to undergo a change in form, appearance, or character; become transformed] by the renewing …[to revive, to make new or as if new again.] of your mind.
You can choose! But its a daily choice, minute by minute, hour by hour.
As Dr Caroline Leaf puts it “You may not always be able to control your circumstances but you can always choose how you respond to them [your circumstances.]”
This makes life so exciting, each new morning you wake up, you have the ability to choose life!
You can choose to be trapped by your circumstances or you can choose to triumph over them.
You’ve got the power! (This line must be sung!)
Our minds are incredibly powerful + more intricate that we can fully comprehend. Just another one of Gods magnificent mysteries.
I know some of you are reading this with steam coming out your ears, muttering, “Sarah, you have no idea. Or just you wait until you have a toddler, a teenager, a grown adult child …” The list of “just you wait” is never ending that is why we need to choose every day to live in each moment, the good, the bad, the ugly. Choose to rejoice in the good, to learn in the bad + grow in the ugly.
I am a wife, a mother, a daughter, a sister, a friend, so I know life is challenging + tough. I have been hurt, stretched, broken hearted, excluded, frustrated, tired, ignored, overwhelmed, overlooked, but still I do my best to choose to uplift those around me, most of all my husband and my son.
Yes be real, yes be authentic, don’t pretend life is easy when its not, no, perfection is not the goal. And yes, reach out for help when you need it but ask your real friends face to face not a public forum simply because its easy + convenient. Before you type, think "If this person was standing in front of me, would I speak these words?"
"How you speak about others, speaks loudest about yourself." – Bear Grylls