Saturday, April 25, 2015

Breathing Room | Show Yourself Some Kindness

What happens when you are the type of person that just keeps going, keeps pushing through, pressing on + all of a sudden you are just done? Not an ounce of breathing room is left … All you want to do is scream because there is nothing else left?

When you have nothing left, how do you encourage yourself to take that next breath? To breathe in deeply & exhale slowly? 

We live in a fast paced generation, lifestyle + world. We desire to put others first, care for others + encourage others. All of these being great + we should not stop doing them but what if we also did these things for ourselves?

So many of us are bullies, not to others but to ourselves.
This week I was enlightened to how deeply I love + care for others + yet constantly bully myself. We do this through punishing ourselves for disappointing others, by constantly telling ourselves we are not good enough & turning on ourselves.
Its not ok to bully anyone, this includes yourself!

Do you know how to be kind to yourself?
Do you know your critical line?

Leeana Tankersley is the author of the book “Breathing Room”
I recently saw her interviewed on a 3 part series on by Bob & Audrey Meisner

Leeana says this
“You cannot control everything in life but one thing you can control is how you treat yourself + that one thing can change everything”

She also says “ what happens in the name of unselfishness is very tragic. We either make poor decisions or we just lose ourselves.”

Selflessness can become destructive when we are no longer being true to ourselves.
Our poor decisions can become others collateral damage. And who we truly are becomes a lost + faded memory.

What would happen if we learnt to be a friend to ourselves? What if we decided to sit down with ourselves, (sounds weird, I know) but like we would a friend + speak kindness to ourselves?
You wouldn’t tell a friend harshly to suck it up, or invalidate their thought + feelings, or expect them to be more than human, so why do we say these things to ourselves? We are not being productive when we bully + turn on ourselves. We have to be on our own team! 

What are we giving if not our best, to ourselves + others? Our best is not perfection. Our best is our all in our state of humanness.

In all of this I am in no means promoting laziness or selfishness but maybe today, you need to look at your self in the mirror + speak a little kindness to your self …

Throw kindness around like confetti … + make sure some sparkles fall on you too!

S. xx

iPhone photograhy :: Sam Tolhurst | @instasam_iam
Location :: Westhills, Calgary AB
Style Details :: Dress by Anthropologie | Long Cardi by ASOS | Earrings By Swarovski | Short necklace by Adorn Boutique Calgary | Long necklace by Colette By Colette Hayman | Watch by Michael Kors | Day Dream clutch by Little Burgundy | Sunnies by Target | Shoes by Walmart 


  1. I love how you merge style and self improvement! It is absolutely a point of difference that makes you stand out :).

    1. You! One of the most encouraging woman I know! X

  2. I'm a little late in reading this, but I'm so glad I did! Definitely hitting some chords in my own life this year, but I'm so happy to finally change things around. Can't wait to see where this year takes you :) xx

    1. B! Thank you! Its amazing how we can busy ourselves with loads of good things and yet forget how to simply breathe ...! Cannot wait to see what adventures you ride this year too!! X